Addressing Actual Complaints
Disclaimer: The content on this blog is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Always consult with a qualified expert for legal, medical, or mental health matters. Use your own judgment and discretion when applying any of the ideas discussed here.
Some complaints are genuine and hard to ignore. Here is some advice for navigating noise complaints that you may receive.
Acknowledge the complaints, but don’t stop living: Accept the reality of shared living spaces while affirming your right to live your life within reasonable limits.
Be Proactive:
If you’re aware of a particular issue (e.g., footsteps), take steps to mitigate it (e.g., adding rugs and carpets to high traffic areas of your home).
Show goodwill by being considerate, which can de-escalate tensions.
Claim Your Space Confidently: For buildings that are constructed with a good STC rating, there should not be a lot of sound transmission. After implementing reasonable migations to reduce sounds, you accept that you have done your part. Now you can politely assert your right to use your home or set your own schedule, e.g., “I understand the noise might travel, but I try to keep things reasonable.”
Leverage your building’s policies: If complaints become harassment, involve building management or mediators to assist with coming to an agreement between you and your neighbours.
Reassurance Notes: Place sticky notes in visible spots with affirmations like:
“I have the right to enjoy my space.”
“It’s okay to make reasonable noise - it’s part of living in a community.”
Journaling for Clarity: Write down the specific fears or judgments you feel and counter them with evidence of your rights and positive actions.
You deserve to enjoy the space which you call home.
Shine your light
An image depicting a cosy lounge area, with couch, table and area rug “Welcme”, indoor pot plant, and outdoor pot plant on balcony – wall art: “Shine your light”